The Game of Life
The house needs cleaned, laundry needs folded, and there’s a list of home projects needing done. Plus, yard work is building up, school work has due dates, and work is a must. Then, dinner needs cooked, but work called and wants you to pick up extra shifts, and you need the money but truly don’t have the time. Family says they never see you, and you don’t remember the last time you had a date with your husband. Really, the only friends you have time for are the ones who will sit and talk while you work on this long list of to-dos…I feel tired.
I’m tired of the never-ending to-do list and falling behind more than I catch up. I’ve reached a point where I don’t even know what takes priority. It becomes a frustrating game you’re constantly losing, but keep up for those around you. Have you ever played Aggravation? My brother-in-law recently taught me to play this game of luck, and it fits this analogy well. For those of you that have never played, you have four marbles that go around a small board from start to home. You have to roll a 1 or a 6 on a dice to get out of start and an exact number to get into home. Seems easy enough, right?But when someone else rolls a number that lands on you it sends you back to start. Before playing I thought it sounded like any other board game of luck, easy enough without cause for frustration because it was a game, and that was just how the game went. Then, I played. Three games of it, and let me just say, I got frustrated. At least for a second or two, until I took a breath and reminded myself that it was just a game and the next round was bound to hold an entirely different play…just like life.
We make choices, take chances, and hope things will go like we want, but the fact is that sometimes they don’t. Sometimes we have a few rough turns or experience the consequences of other person’s actions. Sometimes, we have a few rough games or a few rough days; that’s okay.
In these times we have a few options:
- Ask for help
I’m not really one to sulk; it wastes time and enables my bad mood without making anything better. However, I am a hider, or I try to be. When I get overwhelmed and stay that way, I get tired…no, I get exhausted. I feel mentally, physically, and completely drained, so I, or my body, usually decides sleep is the best option. Now, sometimes it is, but other times I know I use it as an escape, and when I do I wake up feeling grumpier and more overwhelmed than before, really, just ask my husband. While I know this, it still happens sometimes, but it becomes the trigger for my next steps. TAKE A BREAK. Whether it be 5 minutes to breath in silence, 30 minutes for some quiet and wine, or an hour for a good workout, take some time to assess your body and thoughts to decide what you need. Often times my attempt to create a manageable to-do list consists of me planning to wake up two hours earlier, stay up three hours later and fill every minute in between. Sometimes I can shake it off when I can’t get everything done, and other times, I hold it over myself for days. KNOW WHAT YOU CAN DO! It will all get done, but it doesn’t have to all get done today.
Which brings me to my next point: sometimes, it needs to be done today or this week, and you have an impossible schedule and people coming over, and you really can’t get it all done. That’s okay, KNOW WHEN TO ASK FOR HELP! Ask your husband, kids, best friend, boyfriend, mom; hey, sometimes you just need to ask God, but ask someone. It’s okay to not be okay and to need help. It’s part of this game called life. Sometimes frustrating, but always worth it.